Sometimes I
am really upset about the way we are educated and the society. Before anything,
please let it be clear that I am not
blaming any parent. They are not to blame, as no one knows how to be the perfect parent and of course, they are
only doing exactly what their parents have shown them.
But still...
Why do most people in this world have
to learn by themselves the most important and basic lessons of life in order to
be happy? And once they do know about it, why
don’t they raise their descendants according to that knowledge? Or is it that
there are so few people who have such
knowledge?
I think that, even if parents know about how
to live life truly with love and joy, and they do raise their children according to that knowledge, they can only
form their children up to a certain point.
From then on children are mainly
formed by society and erroneous ideas that are formed in their minds and that
are never contradicted. I’m sure most parents will already know this, but just
to mention it: the point up to which a parent can contribute most to the
formation of their child is until puberty. It is simply a natural process for
the adolescent to distance him/herself from the parents, and in consequence, also
from ideas/life styles the parents might have.
One example
I would like to cite is that of exams.
Since the moment a child goes to school he/she learns that you “have”
to be nervous before exams. They learn it from older children, siblings,
teachers, parents, wherever. And the consequence is that for the rest of
his/her life this person will be nervous before (or even during) exams or other stressful moments.
What I just
want to say is that a child’s brain works like a sponge. And whatever kind of
conduct it will see, it will be
stored in the brain, and subconsciously the child will act according to it,
even though consciously it might not want so.
Really sad
actually… as parent you might do everything that you can to raise your child
the best you can, but that is by far not
a guarantee that your child will be happy. And that’s not so much their fault,
but it’s rather a responsibility all
of society should take. A responsibility
to raise happier, better children (with better I mean simply without typical
problems like nowadays, like drugs/violence etc). Even if you really are the
very best parent of the world, your influence alone on the child seemingly will
never be enough. Because there is still society, influencing your child in
every aspect of its live.
Seriously! What a complicated theme this is! My head is
spinning around, I’m trying to see the logic and the solution in all of this,
but this is not a separate problem, it is totally connected to all the other
problems of the society.
How much I would like that little by little people would
become more conscious, learn from life, see its beauty, and understand the
basic principles in order to be happy. Is that really too much to ask? I know most people are too much inside
their material driven world, but will no one wake up and see the importance to
teach children the things that will truly make them happy?
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